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"Rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success."
- Bo Bennett
Rejection is one of the most difficult things for people to deal with and it happens every single day. There was a time in my life where I had received so much rejection that I started to believe it. I started to let other peoples reality become mine. Then one day I had a realization that changed my life.
People have baggage, they have bad experiences, bad choices and bad people in their life. They have things going on right now that you will never know about. How they respond to you is only a reflection of them not you.
What you have to understand is that it is not personal, even if the person is your best friend, it is not personal. Rejection is only the perception of the person giving it.
If you know that the sky is blue, and someone calls you stupid and says that you will never succeed because the sky has always been green and will stay green, do not even take the time to respond. There perception is wrong. Do not let it affect yours.
You can argue all day with someone, and they will not hear you. Some people have mental blockers up. They refuse to see things any other way then theirs. That is not your fault or your problem. If someone doesn't see things your way, find someone who does. Don't waste time arguing, you will be just like them and the only thing it will get you is stressed out.
Once I realized that just because someone else believed differently then me, or lashed out in anger or negativity that it literally had nothing to do with me I was able to remove all barriers.
If you want to start a business, patent an idea, change the way that you run your business, but everywhere that you turn you are getting rejection. Just keep going. You don't need to have anyone believe in what you are doing, no one can see it but you. Once you show them, they will not reject you anymore.
Stay focused on what you want and don't depend on any one person to make your dreams come true. People are flaky, they are short minded, stressed out and just not able to see past their own problems. Today's society is so focused on instant gratification that the ability to focus on the future for long enough to make it happen is very limited. The people that can stay focused and not let outside influence deter them are the ones that succeed.
If you share your dreams and ask someone to help you and they don't respond the way that you would like, that's ok. Don't get angry, don't push back. Just accept where they are and know that it has nothing to do with you and move on to find someone that can help you.
Remove all barriers of what people will think of you and how you will be received and just do it. Just do what you believe is right and make your dreams come true. Keep your reality in focus, and stay the course. Don't get distracted by other people's perception.
Not all rejections are pointless. Every rejection is not a sign of failure, and some rejections are an opportunity to learn, grow and bounce forward. Don't simply blow off every single criticism that comes your way because you know you are thebomb.com. Take the time to reflect on what others have said. Analyze your business or product and if you see an opportunity to improve your business, then do it. Even if the persons intent was to simply hurt you, take everything that you can and use it to move forward.
I know this was a little off the lines of automotive, but this is what was on my mind and I thought I would share it with you all. Leave your comments below on motivational ways that you deal with rejection.
Make it a great day!
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